Generation Over Share

Lately I've noticed a personal change in myself that I am becoming pleased with. It's something that's so common amongst generations before and after me that I never noticed how much of a problem it really is. Have you ever paid attention to your habits? What about things you don't do very often but given the right situation you do a certain action automatically?

I've been writing ever since my aunt gave me my first journal when I was at least 12/13 years old. That’s the place where I talked about my day, expressed my feelings, and provided myself to remember some of the past knowing that at such a young age my memory would be shotty at best. It had to be over 4/5 years ago when I had completely stopped. Around that same time I started getting more into social media. My Facebook and Twitter became the places where I would connect with people and express my feelings or views. I never got many likes or reposts, but there was something so liberating about telling everyone that would look how I felt. It had been done out of habit until my 25th birthday, my thinking process changed.

Everything doesn't belong on a screen where it can instantly be shared with hundreds, if not thousands of people. I think between issues with dating and family drama I've wanted people to see my pain and perseverance so that they are able to understand more about the woman in front of them. So many times I wrote out this long elaborate status going in on someone that hurt or betrayed me, "This will definitely piss them off", that was what I intended to do. Unfortunately, I would get to the finishing touch, a simple period, and delete everything. Maybe I'm just maturing, or maybe I'm growing in a different way that many others haven’t, but I have realized that posting my problems for people that don't give a damn to see won't make things better. It won't help solve my problem or make the situation change, unless there's some proactivity.

All in all, I don't understand why so many people advertise their pain and trauma to the world. I know sometimes speaking about things out loud helps with healing, but I have seen countless times where there is a beef online and what has been posted is used to not only humiliate someone but also bring them into a position where something that brought them comfort now brings them pain. We are in a world of many wonderful minds  that are full of ideas and unexplored adventures. Is there a way to turn things around so that we can express ourselves freely without divulging too much? Or are we stuck in the era of over sharers?