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Happy Monday! For many I know there’s nothing exciting about the start of another work week and yet my gloom from Thanksgiving is almost completely evaporated. Just the atypical holidays for me as I get deeper into my 20's and closer to my 30's. The scariest part is that I'm embracing this sweet nightmare, but enough about me lets talk about everyone. Everyone that can relate that is.  I've never had a really hard time categorizing these personality types but I have always wondered how effective these ways of thinking are on the physical aspect of our personal worlds. A realist, a pessimist and an optimist were friends. The realist saw the optimist and pessimist for who they were. The optimist saw the realist and the pessimist for what they could be. The pessimist just anticipated the day the realist and the optimist wouldn't be their friend anymore. Quite the small group of friends don't you think? When defining myself I've always saw Jameliah as a realist...

The time is here where all most folks can think about is turkey, macaroni and cheese and them nasty folks love them some chitterlings. The biggest concern around the holidays is typically what to cook, where to eat, what to wear, and how to clap back and them shots family gone be firing! Do not fret or sweat for I am here to help you out bro/sis. Food: If you plan on cooking this year I recommend to go ask the OG for them recipes! The OG can be anybody or your own grandma, mama, or auntie. My favorites are Greens, macaroni and cheese (baked), dressing with turkey in it, turkey, cranberry sauce, and sweet potato pie. We don't eat that stove top and don't you dare think Patty's pie gone cut it! If you can't cook I suggest you go to the nearest family member/friends house where they can and did cook! Clothes: If you going around family wear the outfit that will make them shut up about your weight, who you date, or what job you have now. If you going to your boo peoples ...

It's a wonderful Thursday! The perfect day to reflect on my personal goals such as finishing this transcribing project and losing the 30 pounds I gained in a month. Surprise! I'm human and I have things I obsess over and get absolutely nothing accomplished because I'm too busy making an average problem a huge problem.

Dear Meliah                      Do you think that by 2020, the resentment for Trump and Co. will be strong enough to turn the tide against white supremacists and police violence? Or are we still going to be struggling to change minds and hearts to recognize white privilege? - Anonymous First off I want to say thank you for a political question! As of late it looks as if the paperwork for Trumps impeachment is being pushed forward. Aside from the undoing of many of Obama's policies, Trump has really helped the world see how America is full of dill holes. As far as the white supremacists, I feel like with enough unity we can push them back in hiding or in the deep woods of the South. He didn't make those people think the way they do, but he gave them enough "gasoline" to keep going with the same mentality of the fools that swear they discovered America. Sadly, many of them are...

Dear Meliah,                       You should touch on friends with benefits. I would like to learn how to not get attached or get feelings involved. Or learning to make peace with myself if I'm in a situation where the guy doesn't want me back or I feel he doesn't value me, then me having the strength to walk away. I guess learning how to balance being a friend but also having sex and also kinda having a crush.                                                                   Anonymous Hey boo! First off let me say I think you're an amazing person. Now, I'm no expert at the subject matter of friends with benefits but I know a thing or two or three. First off, when it comes to being friends with benefits it is very important that you are aware of how you feel abou...

I would like to give a brief disclaimer: Warning I am not hating on anyone as the topics discussed may hit a soft spot. Just like a******s there are opinions, everyone has one, and this reflects my my possibly unbiased opinion about the subject matter. This is a stay out of your feelings zone.  Now that that's taken care of, let's talk #goals. So any connoisseur of social media is likely to have used or seen some type of fairytale like picture or words followed by hashtag goals. When I check out the Shaderoom they pass along shade as well as inspiration given by regular folks and then also by celebrities. Many people shoot for bae goals and it's typically the caption for a picture of Beyonce & Jay Z or Teyana Taylor and Iman Shumpert. Makes sense, they're in love, married, have offspring and smile at each other in pictures. The only issue is that too many times people ignore the down sides to these model couples that never really asked to be in the forefront in...

Hello hello hello  I would like to officially welcome you back into my mind. To those of you that visited Meliah's World I thank you for your support. To the newcomers I wanted to take this opportunity to have you get to know me a little better. So here's a list of things you may or may not be able to relate to: Foods that I hate: 1. Peas - squishy even little things 2. Liver- mom's had me thinking it was pork chops (no bueno) 3. Blue cheese- I don't care I don't want it on my buffalo wings  Hairstyles I can never rock more than a day (Stay tuned for hair chronicles): 1. Wrap- I only flat iron my hair 1-3 times a year to do a length check otherwise to the fro I go! 2. Wig- I call myself a wig queen. Literally a tote full of wigs but honey do they have a time limit on my head. I can barely do it all day let alone sew it to my head like some folks do. My scalp needs fresh air boo. 3. Sew-in - If I'm not sewing my precious wig to my head I'm definitely...

This is the very first post on my new blog. This will be a shared space of interesting intellectual tea honey! But seriously, welcome to Cocoa Butta my loves! Prepare for some truth!